Dear Fellow Crafters,
As a card maker, I seldom shop in Hallmark stores. On occasion, when I am stumped for an idea, I admit it, I do browse the card selection aisle. This post can either appeal to the person who creates cards or the person who doesn’t. In either case, the points I make (hopefully) will benefit you.
Sending the “RIGHT” Valentine card can be stressful, so here are some do’s and don’t’s:
DO: Trust your own words. Whether or not your valentine is for a friend, a relative or a romantic interest, it’s unlikely that text in a conventional store-bought card can accurately sum up your relationship. Look for a card with blank space. For years I sold my cards from my web site blank inside for that very reason. I now offer sentiments too, but the big “draw” still seems to be, in the words of a client, “leave mine blank”.
Don’t: Let the card do all the talking – go instead for a personalized message.
DO: Feel free to get creative (artistic skills not required). If you go with a store-bought card, aim for one with text or pictures that have personal significance. For years, my husband has been plagued with buying cards. He told me that he searches for ones that “say what he wants them to say” and the card is one that is creative. I appreciate his effort and have some that I can “copy”.
DON’T: Lean toward overly effusive language, as it runs the risk of making your message seem unoriginal or recycled.
DO: Incorporate humor, if it suits your relationship. A little humor can also help take some pressure off of Valentine’s Day.
DON’T: Explore uncharted territory when it comes to jokes. Steer clear of humor that borders on being sexist, racist or otherwise offensive.
DO: Look for a card with special significance for the relationship. Choose one with writing or illustrations that evoke fond memories, for example. When we were first dating, my husband was stationed overseas. My first Valentine card from him featured a barren tree on the front, and a tree with loads of leaves and hearts on the inside. He hand-wrote the sentiment and yes, I still have that card!
DON’T: Use the card as an attempt to accelerate or scale back the relationship. Know your boundaries, and don’t use the card has an attempt to test them with large, unprecedented gestures, such as saying “I love you” for the first time. The same rule applies to initiating a breakup or expressing displeasure.
ALWAYS: Avoid the view that the fate of a relationship is hinging on a single holiday, or a single greeting card, for that matter.
I hope that you have found this useful and if you still have some qualms about what to say in the card, either contact me via email or check out my previous posts on sentiments or my cards.
‘Til next time,
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